After choosing the design for your wedding invitations
After choosing the design for your wedding invitations you can explore ways to express your relationship and wedding plans through creative wording. Some couples select a special quotation or poem; others write personal thoughts from the heart, while those planning a fun and casual wedding play around with wording even using rhymes.
Creative wording for wedding invitations can also be inspired by the couples common interest, the exotic or unusual location of the wedding, the invitation design, or wedding themes including Disney and fairytale.
Traditional wedding invitation wording often extends a gracious request
Traditional wedding invitation wording often extends a gracious request for the honour of your presence. Honour, the British spelling, is reserved for wedding services held in a church or a synagogue. Less formal wording ranges from a request for the pleasure of your company or presence to an invitation to celebrate the coupleís joyous occasion.
Whether you seek to follow expert wedding invitation etiquette or relax and follow your own personal style depends on whether the wedding is formal or casual. Regardless, there are a few tried and true traditions worth examining.
A traditional mailing includes a wedding invitation, a response card, and a reception card. Optional inserts include a map/direction card, registry information, and at-home card informing guests of your new residence if you will also be relocating.
Labels and Envelopes
Computer printed labels are without a doubt a real time saver, but they make the first impression of your formal wedding invitation appear impersonal. If a calligrapher is not in the budget, you can gather handwriting samples from your friends and offer them a fun incentive to assist addressing the envelopes.
Courtesy titles such as Mrs. and Dr. should be the only place you see punctuation on a wedding invitation. The basic rule of etiquette when addressing professional guests places the most impressive title first on the invitation regardless of gender. Simply using Mr. and Mrs. can be confusing enough and is acceptable unless itís a formal wedding. If the doctor is your dear Uncle Hank, donít worry about addressing the professional title.
Capital letters should only be used on a wedding invitation for proper names and at the end of a sentence. Try to fight the urge to use a capital letter at the beginning of each line to emphasis the poetry and love expressed in the wording.
When seconds are rapidly ticking away on the wedding planning clock, a number seems almost insignificant. But writing numbers out is a way to stop for a moment and honor your very special wedding day.
The date should be spelled out and followed by the day Ė Saturday, the second of August. If you choose to include the year, spell it out as well as the time. 3:00pm is written as 3 oíclock in the afternoon.
Although traditional wedding invitation etiquette suggests everything be written out, the United States Post Office encourages the use of numbers and state abbreviations for proper delivery.
Hosting Ė Family Matters
Before blended families, the host of the wedding was almost always the brideís family. Today, a combination of people might host the wedding including the couple themselves. Eighty percent of todayís couples pay for their wedding and simply use their names on the invitation to request the pleasure of the company of guests.
In situations where both sets of parents are divorced and remarried it is best to avoid a roll-call of names. Using words like together and families along with the name of the bride and groom honor all as hosts.
Honoring a deceased parent on the wedding invitation is perfectly acceptable etiquette if the invitation is sent by the couple and not their parents. This is done as the daughter of the living parentís name and the late parentís name.
Including the deceased parentís name on the wedding program is another option. Unlike the wedding invitation, the program allows for room to include a special tribute or photo.
RSVP / Response Cards
When it comes to response/RSVP cards, the goal is to get a response. Whether selecting a card with a self-addressed, either by hand or computer printed labels, and pre-stamped envelope or an economic post card with your address on one side and the guest response on the other, do what works best for you.
You can personalize the response with a handwritten note or print it with standard or customized wording. A helpful hint for keeping the RSVP process on track and organized is to lightly number each card on the back and correspond it with a numbered guest list.
It is customary for the response cards to go to the host of the wedding, but the bride can request they remain sealed until the responses can be opened together.
The response card can be addressed to you as long as the address of the host appears on the back of the main envelope to indicate they formally sent the wedding invitation.
The caterer insists on a final guest count about a week before the wedding, so donít be shy about calling those who havenít sent in their RSVP by the set date.
Often close friends and family members assume you know theyíre coming and they fail to even return the first phone call. Let a parent or your fiancť make the second call to communicate how sorry they are the guest will be unable to attend and how they hope to see them at another gathering soon. This usually brings forth a quick response from even the most dedicated procrastinator.
Creative wording for your wedding invitations is all about expressing yourself creatively and wedding invitation etiquette is a guide to expressing yourself appropriately.